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    In my upcoming book, Automatic Influence: New Power for Leading Change, I talk about my passion for wisdom: Let’s talk wisdom. I’m a raving fan. If wisdom were a football team, I’d be the shirtless guy in body paint. I’m a Seattle-native and a Seahawks fan. As everyone knows, Seahawks fans are ravers. The 12th […]

  • A boy in a village gets a horse for his birthday. All the people in the village said, “How wonderful! The boy got a horse.” But the zen master said, “We’ll see.” Then several years later the boy falls off his horse and breaks his leg. The people in the village said, “How terrible.” But the […]

  • Are we headed for success or failure? According to Solomon, it could depend on our attitude toward “wisdom.” Wisdom, described by Solomon as a female artisan, tells us there are three attitudes we can take toward her. To help us remember, I’ll call each person with each attitude “The Waiter,” “The Later,” and “The Hater.” […]

  • You don’t see many dirty cats. Why? Because it’s not in their nature to be dirty. They clean themselves regularly. Their habit of regular cleaning assures that if they’re dirty, they won’t be for long. On the other hand, you don’t see many clean pigs. Why? Because it’s not in their nature to be clean. […]

  • Remember drivers ed? Before we learned to work the pedals, we couldn’t drive. We were passengers. But when we learned how the pedals worked, we started to work them for ourselves. We put ourselves into the driver’s seat. We found freedom. Our motivations are like cars. Until we learn to drive them, they drive us. […]

  • People-problems are one of the biggest reasons workers hate their jobs. So, how can we get along better at work? The answer is, by seeing how we see. Let’s illustrate with a story… It’s a typical workday at StickRite Label Company. Nick’s boss comes to his cubicle and quietly breaks the bad news: Nick didn’t […]

  • I just watched an interview with Antoinette Tuff, the hero who singlehandedly stopped a mass school shooting in Decatur, Georgia on Tuesday. The interview is must-see. It shows the transforming power of love and God’s grace.     It also shows the See-Feel-Act progression in vivid color, something I’ve been blogging about extensively over the […]

  • “About a year ago,” said Bud Jefferson, a main character in the book Leadership and Self Deception, “I flew from Dallas to Phoenix on a sold-out flight that had open seating. I boarded early and found a window seat with a vacant seat beside it.     “I put my briefcase in the middle seat […]

  • Yep, I’m still yapping about the see-feel-act pattern. Here’s a story1 from cognitive therapist Aaron Beck that illustrates this pattern in action. A teacher told the class that Tony, a bright student, got a bad grade on his test. Five other students in the class saw the situation five different ways, creating five different sets […]

  • People often think of integrity in a good way. If someone has integrity, they’re a good person. I agree. But I also see a lot of what I call idiotic integrity out there in the world as well. In myself too. What do I mean by idiotic integrity? First, let’s remember what integrity actually is. […]

  • The see-feel-act pattern from previous posts (High Sees, Seeing how we see) tells us that if we want to be different, we must first see different. Our root beliefs, meaning the way we see ourselves, others, the world, or the situation at hand, grow into the branches and leaves of feeling and behavior.     […]

  • In several posts now I’ve been discussing the see-feel-act pattern, showing how our root thoughts (the way we see) grow naturally into emotions and behaviors.     An old sailor story illustrates… We’d been in training maneuvers with other ships for several days in heavy seas. I served on the lead battleship, on bridge watch […]